I have been open about all aspects of my gender transition and I have chosen to do the same with my lower surgery journey. It has not been an easy decision to share my surgery experience and photos but I think it is very much needed. There are so many detrimental myths around this surgery and very few people willing to be candid about it so I wanted to fill that gap in knowledge.
Whenever there is a Documentary about Transgender people on TV I find myself torn between excitement and dread. We desperately need more visibility, more understanding, more acceptance and the media is a powerful tool in assisting to either make that happen, or, by portraying us in sensationalised ways with incorrect terminology, do so much damage.
We kept this article a bit quiet after the last article in the Mirror caused some divide of opinion. We did this at the same time as we did the Mirror article earlier in the year but for some reason the article was delayed so it has only just come out. Last time I was quick to proudly share it, this time I was hesitant, but then a friend of mine shared it and it made me realise that there is no need to be ashamed.
I think some people think that Drew and I are quite mad to have agreed to have our story published in The Sunday Mirror. To leave ourselves open to the negative comments that unfortunately and predictably accompany an LGBT story in the press, seems like utter foolishness on our part. I wanted to write something, to clarify our reasons and intentions for agreeing to let them publish our story.
I am not the biggest fan of the tabloids, so to agree to have a story printed took a lot of deliberation and discussion between Drew and I, as to who and what purpose it would serve.
It is incredible that today marks three years since my legal name change to Mr Finlay Games. This time 3 years ago, I’d been out living publically as a transgender male for just over a month and I was both elated and petrified all at the same time. The new realisation that I was transgender answered questions I had been asking for a lifetime. However, as amazing as it was to finally be able to make sense of the years of confusion, I wanted and wished desperately, that I could just shut the lid on the proverbial ‘Pandora’s box, I had just opened.