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2025 Intentions and Wintering: Letting Go and Leaning In

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On 01/29/2025

In Chronic Illness

hands wrapped in jumper sleaves are cupping a mug of coffee. In the background is a book covered in three crisp red autumn leaves.

As we settle into the new year, I’ve been reflecting on where I am in life, what I want to focus on, and how I can embrace the practice of wintering in 2025. Wintering isn’t just about the colder months; it’s a powerful metaphor for those times in life when we need to pause, rest, and reflect. It’s about embracing stillness and giving ourselves the space to heal and rediscover who we are. This year, my 2025 intentions are centered on taking the time to truly slow down and focus on self-care, allowing myself to let go of old expectations and embrace the quiet.

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Chronic Illness Acceptance -Mastering Being Sick

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On 08/09/2024

In Chronic Illness

A man is lying n bad with an eye mask wrapped around his head and smiling. The text over the image reads, mastering being long term sick

It’s been a long time since I have written anything for my blog. It’s all a bit of a mess over here and in need of a refresh! I really would like to be writing here again. To do that, I need first to write an update, to bring you up to speed on where I’m at in terms of my chronic illness. Where I am at is an interesting place. I’ve reached a level of acceptance with my health, where although there is still a sense of loss, there is also a much greater sense of peace. Although it seems like strange terminology to use, I feel like I am finally mastering how to be sick!

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Appearing in Ch4’s Naked Education Discussing Phalloplasty

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On 04/18/2023

In Phalloplasty

Montage of pictures from channel 4 naked educaion showing Fnlay Games

I am proud to finally be able to share the news, that I am involved with the ground-breaking series Naked Education, created by Betty TV and commissioned by Channel 4, The series aims to overcome stereotypes of body types and body image, celebrate body diversity and experiences, and generate body positivity along the way. I will be talking about being transgender, going through gender transition, discussing phalloplasty, and showing my naked body.

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Approved for Glastonbury Festival Accessibility Support

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On 06/21/2022

In Travel

Finn grinning broadly and clutching his Glastonbury Festival accessibility support information pack

If you are a regular follower of my content, you will know how much I love Glastonbury festival. It’s more than a music festival to me. I’ve written many blogs about this special place and the deep meaning it holds for me. I’ve also vlogged many of my years spent there. My last Glastonbury, in June 2019, was particularly special as it was not long after losing my mum. I found myself doing a lot of my grieving and healing in those magical fields.

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Why I Began Using a Mobility Scooter and How It Helps with ME/CFS

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On 04/18/2022

In Chronic Illness

I am known for my incredibly open and honest sharing, on all sorts of stigma-related topics. I have many identities, which messages from society tell me I should be ashamed about. I’m transgender, I’m gay, I have mental health challenges, and I am an alcoholic and addict in recovery. My way of overcoming shame has been to share my story proudly. Why then, have I been struggling with shame and embarrassment about using a mobility scooter, and not talking about it?

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Receiving a Diagnosis of ME/CFS

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On 03/15/2022

In Chronic Illness

After almost four years of struggling with debilitating fatigue and distressing physical symptoms, it has been a relief to have a GP thoroughly investigate my health. It should also be a relief to have all his investigations come back negative. However, it doesn’t feel like a relief. This is because the only option left that explains my fatigue and physical symptoms is a diagnosis of ME/CFS.

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Making Sense of Chronic Fatigue | Finding Answers

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On 02/22/2022

In Chronic Illness

I am very much behind with my content, especially here on my blog. I have been updating about my progress with my chronic fatigue (or Fred, as I affectionately call it!) over on my YouTube channel. Today though, I thought I might do a summary blog post of all that has happened since I last updated.

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ME/CFS and A Virtual Walking Challenge

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On 01/05/2022

In Chronic Illness

A couple of years ago, whilst living in Dawlish in Devon, I decided I wanted to walk the South West Coast Path. My plan was to do it in sections, over the course of a year.  Unfortunately, life had other plans for me. My mum became ill, and I had to leave Devon to support her.

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Unexplained Chronic Fatigue | Searching For Answers

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On 09/04/2021

In Chronic Illness

A koala asleep in a tree

I have learned to live with many challenging health issues over the last decade. Through my addiction recovery, my gender transition, and managing complex mental health challenges, I have become an expert at self-care. I have a rock-solid wellness plan. I have a well-practiced flexible routine that allows me to keep my self-care at the center, and still live a successful life around it. However, when it comes to the crippling chronic fatigue I am currently experiencing, I am stumped as to what to do for the best.

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I am Fine But My Mental Health Is Not

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On 07/30/2021

In Mental Health

Today’s blog is an old-school personal update/ramble. I am not doing well at all at the moment. Wait, scrap that, let us be more accurate. I am doing fine. Life is good, I am loving living back in Devon. Our new flat is wonderful. I love my fiancé Chris with all my heart, he is my best friend, and we have so much laughter together. I have incredible friends. My self-employment journey is progressing well, and I’m beginning to earn more money. I’m working with more clients and giving more public talks. My newly published book is doing well. My life is full and rich with lots of exciting opportunities. I am doing very well indeed.

What isn’t doing well to be more precise, is my mental health. And this is the thing about mental illness. Life can be perfect in every way, but still, our mental health can take a turn for the worse.

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Learning to Share Achievements | Getting Out Of My Own Way

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On 05/31/2021

In Career and Study

man with arms out celebrating his acheievements

Why does it always feel awkward to blow our own trumpets? I have been recently nominated, for the LGBT+ Positive Role Model award in the National Diversity Awards. This is an incredible honor and achievement; I am extremely proud. However, I have been finding it hard to post publicly about it. Every time I do, I feel embarrassed. Why is this? Why am I embarrassed about sharing my accomplishment and pride?

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Announcing My Book Launch | Top to Bottom – A Memoir and Personal Guide Through Phalloplasty

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On 04/22/2021

In Career and Study

Picture of the book top to bottom a memoir and personal guide through phalloplasty by Finlay Games

One minute it was months away, and now my memoir, Top to Bottom, is published and in the world for folks to read! I am still in a state of very happy shock! In this blog, I will give you all the details you need, about book events, where you can get signed books, and how you can access virtual signing events too. Exciting!

You can find out more about my Memoir, ‘Top to Bottom’ here.

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