The 31st of March is a significant day in the transgender community. On this day we celebrate International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV).
Until recently, there was a lack
We have all had those days, haven’t we? Where on waking up with good intentions, something then upsets us or makes things difficult, and our mood and motivation plummets. When this happens, we can feel tempted to throw in the towel and resign ourselves to a bad day. However, you don’t need to write the day off, you can simply choose to restart a bad day. In this blog, I will share the four simple steps, to restart a bad say, at any time, and as many times as you need.
On celebratory days like International Women’s Day, I am never quite sure how to respond. As a transgender man who has his completed transition, I often feel I no longer have the right to comment. I fear that if I post my personal views, people might see me as yet another man exerting his power, so I stay quiet.
I planned to go to the gym today. I joined last week, in the hope it may do me some good. However, I only got as far as getting up, showering and dressing. Once dressed, I felt defeated by the enormity of the rest of the steps needed to complete a gym session and could go no further. To combat the feelings of failure, I need to remind myself, especially under the current circumstances, that success is relative.
I feel very honoured and rather proud to have been nominated for my first ever Versatile Blogger Award (VBA). Thank you so much to Chloe of A Palm Full Of Feathers, for your kind nomination. Your generosity in nominating me came with the added bonus of being introduced to your inspiring blog. It is always a pleasure to discover people on the journey of recovery.
I frequently receive messages, from folks who are about to go into surgery, asking for my advice as to what to take with them to the hospital. In this blog, I will share my recommended phalloplasty hospital kit list with you.
Phalloplasty surgery involves multiple stages and therefore many hospital stays. It is worth investing in items that will travel with you on your journey, to use time and time again.
It’s been three weeks since Mum passed away. The day Mum left feels simultaneously like a lifetime away and only yesterday. Time is behaving strangely. Days of the week have no meaning. Time, space, days, they are all the same. The pain of grief is
This is my first Valentines day for some years that I haven’t been single. To be honest, I think I am still in shock that I am in a relationship! It’s not that I didn’t want to find someone, because I did. However, I was very nervous about dating, mainly because of my trans history. I also wasnt sure I believed that you could find love through online dating.
Feeling grateful does not come easily when we are in emotional pain. When we are really low, it is so difficult to remember a time when life was good or to remember that this will pass. However, in my recovery journey, l have learned the power of perspective. If you focus on the negative, in turn, negative feelings will be the most prevalent. Conversely, by switching our focus to positive things, we start to notice more of them and our mood lifts, making us feel better. This is why writing a gratitude list is such a powerful tool in recovery.
Mum has gone. I can’t say that D-word. I don’t want to
Keeping a positive mindset is not an easy thing to do. In our interaction with the world and with people, we hear upsetting news, people and places frustrate us, and we can easily start to spiral into negativity. Whilst it is impossible to avoid negativity completely, we can do a few simple things to help counterbalance it. The best way to guard against negativity is by creating a positive environment. In this blog, I will share my tips on how to make your living space, social space, and online space, ones that nurture positivity.
The Tumblr adult content ban has left a lot of trans guys like me with nowhere to turn. Those of you who follow my website and YouTube channel for transition updates will know that alongside this website, I have a surgery blog on Tumblr. In the months leading up to Christmas, Tumblr announced that it would be placing an outright ban on anything that it deemed to be of ‘adult content’. This ban came into effect on the 17th December 2018. Since then, I have received countless messages from people asking if I will keep posting about my phalloplasty experiences. I thought it might be easier to make my answer public here.