If you do one thing today, please let it be coming out for Trans Equality. There are just two days left to give feedback on the Government’s consultation to’ reform of the Gender Recognition Act. The consultation is a pivotal moment in improving the lives of transgender people. Therefore we need as many trans people and allies as we can get to complete the consultation paper. The result of which will impact greatly on trans people’s lives
It has been a while since I have ventured outside of my comfort zone. I have had to be very gentle with myself lately. The constant hypothyroidism fatigue has made it impossible to do anything else. However, since starting the higher dose of Levothyroxine, the fatigue fog has finally begun to lift. I had lots of anxiety-inducing events in my diary that I did not want to have to cancel, so it has been a relief to feel less tired. On beginning to feel better, I knew it was time to shift gear from simple living to catching an express train out of comfort zone town.
There have been many conversations in the media about mental health and employment this week. Employers are being encouraged to view mental health issues equally to physical ones. Could flexible working provide better support for people with mental health challenges?
Lessening The Stress By Organising the Mess
One of the greatest gifts of entering recovery is the way in which my life has become so busy. While this is a positive thing I must also remember to manage the stress, so as to look after my mental health.
Self-care is to remember that your best is good enough
This is my first weekly self-care reflection, after deciding to
In beginning freelance writing, I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing. I mean I know what I’m doing, but I don’t know if I am doing it right. Yes, I have read a lot of books, articles, posts etc, but I still feel like I am feeling my way around in the dark. Its exciting and terrifying all at once.
Recognizing when something no longer serves you
I am behind and entirely out of touch with writing my self-care blog posts. When I started writing them, it was both to help me breathe new life into my daily self-care routine and to help me to develop a daily writing habit. However, they have now become a little counterproductive.
Preventing Suicide In The LGBTQ Community
I am unfortunately no stranger to suicide. I have a history of mental health problems, and I have made many attempts on my life. I am also both transgender and gay, which puts me in one of the highest at-risk communities for mental health issues and suicide. This means that over my lifetime, I have lost many friends to suicide and seen countless more attempt it. We need to address this now.
“Do one thing every day that scares you”
This is a line from ‘Everybody’s Free (to Wear Sunscreen)’ a spoken word song by Baz Luhrmann. In learning to live with anxiety, that particular line has stuck with me and has become somewhat of a mantra
This is surprising really as it runs contrary to my old mantra of ‘Drink one bottle of wine a day and hide from your fears.’ I lie.
It was never only one bottle.
This blog is part of the #365daysofselfcare challenge
Self-care is spending time with your creative self
Creativity allows us to express hidden parts of ourselves and connect with our inner self. Most importantly, creativity reminds us how fabulous we human beings are, that we can create such amazing things from inside ourselves, and that life is full of fascinating creations.
I am a very creative person, I always have been, but for a long time, I forgot this. During my recovery, no longer having my inner world dulled by the haze of drugs and alcohol, I have discovered this side of myself again.
My love of creativity is why it makes so much sense for me to move forward and turn my hobby of writing and making videos into a freelance writing career. For me, even on a severe mental health day, most of the time I can still write. That is because for me, creativity is not work, its a self-care for my soul.
Creativity does not have to be perfect, the best part of creativity is that it is best when not perfect. It is at its finest when you just let go and let whats inside come out in whichever creative outlet you choose.
Buy some play-doh, doodle on a blank page, start a journal, or invest in an adult coloring book and make it a mission to spend time with yourself, letting your fascinating soul run free.
2. We Are Going To Know a New Freedom and a New Happiness
Today, I celebrate eight years sober and clean. It still amazes me that it has been that long. I remember, in my first few Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, feeling a rising panic at the thought of a day without alcohol, never mind eight years. I also remember being scared of what my life would become, thinking that a life without alcohol would be dull.
This memory makes me smile now, for two reasons. The first reason is that my life back then was already dull. I was a physical and mental wreck, spending my days smoking weed, knocking back lager, and obsessing about running short of either of the two. Hardly a fulfilling life but rather a painful and depressing one. The second is because my life in sobriety is anything but dull. In these last eight years, I have explored and experienced more of myself and my life than I had in the 37 years previous.
Alcoholism is a cunning jailer; it convinced me that life outside its walls would be a life not worth living. It was not until I began to escape its clutches that I realized how captive I had been. The freedom I feel, in every aspect of my life, is the cornerstone of my happiness.
I am at such an exciting place in my life right now. Lots of things are coming to fruition all at once. I am at the end of the medical part of my gender transition. I have made sense of my sexuality and am in a committed relationship with a gorgeous man. I am at the start of launching a freelance writing career, and I have just had my first piece published. I have recently enrolled in my final module with the Open University, and this time next year I will be the proud owner of a degree. I have also been doing some media work with the Open University, as a student ambassador.
All of these things are anything but dull and only possible because I am sober. There is no way the drunk me could have had the enthusiasm or the ability to set up a small business, and I would most certainly not have been asked to be an ambassador!
Recovery has given me the freedom to be me. It has given the freedom to pursue my dreams and the freedom to forgive myself and allow myself to love and be loved. The new happiness which comes from this freedom takes my breath away every single day. I am free now, one day at a time to live the exciting life that alcoholism hid from me for so many years.